Low Self Esteem

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Low self esteem, a cause and symptom of depression, anxiety and anger problems, has become the modern pariah.



Low self esteem, a rope that binds; preventing us pursuing our dreams and enjoying simple things that ‘other people enjoy'. We talk of ‘self esteem issues' and nod sagely to one another.

We use the words but do we examine what they really mean? You can’t hold self-esteem in your hand or take the kids to see it on a Sunday afternoon. So, what actually is self-esteem?

Self-esteem: A Definition

Many religions' scriptures teach that pride and arrogance are terrible sins, the idea being that you can't worship yourself and a god at the same time. Supposedly, if you are ‘full of yourself' you have little space for anything or anyone else.

However, real self-esteem is not arrogance or self-love or vanity.

Real self-esteem consists of:

An appreciation of what we can do.

An honest respect for our own abilities, potentials and value.

Knowing our strengths and trusting in them.

An appreciation and open acceptance of our limitations.

An acceptance of these limitations whilst understanding that some limitations can be overcome.

A freedom from over-concern with what we imagine others think of us whilst accepting these perceptions do play a part in everyday life but do not determine who we are.

Having a strong sense of who we are.

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