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Learning Self confidence
Self Confidence can be learned
Another common idea about confidence is that you are either born
with it, or not. Things you hear are "I'm just not a confident
person" or "People who are super-confident are just lucky".
This is obviously untrue, as anyone knows who has seen a friend
or colleague grow in confidence. Confidence is a way of approaching
things, and it can be learned.
Catch 22?
Now obviously, what builds our confidence in the long-term is
doing things that we are a bit scared of and surprising ourselves
with our abilities. So is this a no-win situation? If we can't
do the things that we need to feel confident, how can we grow
in confidence? Well, we can learn the strategies, approaches and
thinking of confident people and, perhaps most importantly, how
to mentally prepare ourselves for new or frightening events. Once
we do this, it's like rolling a snowball down a hill. The things
that made us under-confident no longer do and we feel more able
to tackle bigger things, which in turn raises our confidence levels.
What can I do to be more confident?
If you truly want to be more confident, you can learn how. How
long it will take before you are as confident as you want to be
depends on what stage you are at now. Very under-confident people
are more likely to notice a difference most quickly when they
learn how to be more confident. Those who need more confidence
for particular situations only may only notice the difference
when they go back into that situation.
Above all, to become more confident, we have to do something.
It's one thing thinking different, but that's only one part of
the picture.
The Self Confidence Trainer leads you through doing things differently
to help you to greater self confidence.
You can discuss self confidence on our forum
You can also find tips for confidence in back issues of our newsletter.
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