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Hypnosis Master Series

What is Hypnosis

How Hypnosis Works

How Hypnosis Can Build Self Confidence

Hypnosis for Success

Everyday Hypnosis

Controlling the Body with the Mind

Fear & Anxiety Hypnosis

Shock Hypnosis

Placebo Hypnosis

Stop Smoking Hypnosis

Dealing with resistance in hypnosis

The Truth about Hypnosis and Memory

How to be more charismatic

The meaning of dreams

The hypnotic art of confusion

Skeptical about hypnosis?

Eliciting hypnotic phenomena

Hypnosis and pain control

The power of metaphor

The Importance of Relaxation

Why you need to relax - the low down on winding down

How beliefs work

How your environment influences you

The secret of instant rapport

How to solve problems with paradox

How to overcome limitations

How to sleep better with hypnosis

How to avoid psychological labelling damage

How to talk to the unconscious mind

How well do you know yourself?

How to stop worrying yourself to death

How to learn excellence from others

How to stop jinxing your future

How to understand people

How to stop the past from hurting you

How to use the power of wondering

How to form healthy habits

How to get people to do it right

Are you sure your thoughts are your own?

Why doing what you're told can be a very bad idea?

Why your thoughts just want to break free

Talking thoughts or talking feelings - does it matter?

How to talk to the unconscious mind


"Talking to the unconscious mind makes you much more influential" courtesy of Zest-pk

A sense of identity is a curious thing. When I talk about 'me' or 'I', which part of me do I mean? Am I talking about the conscious part of me that makes decisions and consciously intends to do something? Or do I also mean that part of me that can dilate my pupils, breathe while I sleep, generate dreams and activate my immune system? All these unconscious processes are 'done' by me, but they feel as if they just 'happen by themselves'. So there is a duality of identity in me. And you.

We commonly say things like: "I'm in two minds about that..." and "part of me agrees with you and part of me doesn't..."

Your identity isn't just singular. If you blush, you might feel consciously 'responsible' for that blush; people even say things like: "I'm so stupid for blushing!" But really this is the conscious mind taking responsibility for the unconscious mind. People don't consciously decide to blush - it's another part of them that is doing it. And it's this other part that we need to influence when we use hypnosis. This is not to say that we don't have or take responsibility for what we need to change in ourselves, but it does mean we can be clear about which part of us is actually maintaining a problem behaviour.

The conscious part and the unconscious part of us, although clearly forming a total 'whole', appear to work as separate autonomous systems. The more we can relax with this idea, the more we can encourage the specific part of ourselves that is best suited to deal with specific circumstances to take the reins and manage that process. What does this mean?

Well, for example, someone who likes to feel in control of things all the time may find themselves trying to 'consciously control' what is, in reality, an unconscious sphere. If you try too hard to relax, or to fall asleep, or even to be creative, then you are trying to influence these things with the wrong part of yourself. 'Control freak' types may have difficulty sleeping, or spontaneously letting their hair down in company. They may have sexual difficulties too, as they find it tricky to let that part of themselves that knows how to respond to intimacy do its stuff. There is a part of you that is not the conscious part that is better than you are at digesting food, regulating blood pressure, improving your mood and healing your body. This is not to say that what you decide to do consciously can't influence these processes, but ultimately it's your unconscious mind that runs the mechanisms by which these changes occur.

When we communicate hypnotically with ourselves or others we need to know which part - conscious or unconscious - we are communicating with and seeking to influence. A good hypnotist will be absolutely clear in their own mind which part of the mind they are directing their communication towards and will modify how they communicate with this in mind.

For example, if I say to a client, "Okay, now make your blood pressure lower, please!" I am speaking to them quite directly in a way that is really more appropriate to the conscious mind, which is not the part that deals with autonomic processes like blood pressure.

But suppose I were to say something like:

"Now you know there are two parts to you. There is your conscious part that is processing these words and is aware and may be analysing what is going on but there is a far larger part of you which is very able and can do things for you without you even needing to be aware that it's happening...

And it's that part of you that I want to begin to appeal to right now - the part of you that is apart from the conscious part is so powerful and knows how to ease blood flow through your body

And as it does that... your conscious self may start to become very curious as to just how it's going to feel once your blood pressure begins to lower a little... maybe you'll notice your hands feeling a little warmer or just start to feel more relaxed generally..."

This is very different from the first approach of just asking someone to lower their blood pressure. The second way of communicating does two things. First off, I use what we call 'splitting'. This means I purposefully and explicitly divide up the parts of the person by saying: "Now you know there are two parts to you... a conscious part and an unconscious part..." This is a way of implicitly saying, "Okay, your conscious mind can butt out of this because it's your unconscious mind that is the expert here."

The second thing I do through this approach is to start to build up conscious curiosity. If the unconscious mind is going to do what it's good at (lowering blood pressure, switching off the pain response, curing warts or whatever), then we can ask the conscious mind just to sit back and be curious and almost just watch what the unconscious mind does. Sometimes when people are hypnotized they experience a hand or arm getting lighter. If we want to encourage this specific hypnotic phenomenon, rather than just asking them to lift their arm (which would be a conscious instruction), we might ask their conscious mind to

"be very curious as to just which finger feels lighter than all the other fingers... and I really don't know and you don't know yet which hand can... just begin to feel a little lighter..."

Again, I'm using a specific type of language here - what you might call the language of duality - to distinguish between the unconscious part that actually starts to produce hypnotic phenomena and the conscious part that needs to stand back and just watch it happening and be curious about it.

When we seek to hypnotize someone we want them to respond with their unconscious mind; it's this part we want to connect to. So, we might say something like:

"Now you really don't need to listen to me because your unconscious mind will hear me. You can let your conscious mind wander in any direction it wants to..."

Emphasizing the duality in your subject's consciousness isn't about trying to use hypnosis to 'switch off' the conscious mind, but rather to give the conscious mind permission not to pay attention, or to occupy itself with something else. Skilled hypnotists often use confusion as a way of giving the conscious mind a preoccupying task and thereby keeping it distracted while suggestions really meant for the unconscious mind are delivered.

All good hypnotic inductions use the language of duality and you can even use it when asking yourself to produce hypnotic changes. For example, if I want to sleep deeply tonight (which of course I always do ) I might encourage my unconscious mind to 'do its thing' by saying something to myself like:

"Now there is a part of me that just knows how to sleep deeply and nod off in just the right way... and right here and now I just want to make a little request to that part of myself for later... the part of me that knows all about those moments when I just gently start to slip into a beautiful deep and restful sleep..."

I also find that if I've forgotten something, it's not much use trying too hard to consciously force the forgotten material back into my mind - in fact that seems to make it even harder to remember! Instead I might purposefully avoid trying to remember and just suggest to myself:

"Okay I need to recall this name and I'm going to stop thinking about it now but I want my unconscious mind to search for me and when it has found that name (or whatever it is I'm trying to recall) I want it to present it to me..."

This is a surprisingly effective way of getting your unconscious mind to do the work for you.

Before doing a longer self hypnosis session I might just review the kind of things I'd like my unconscious mind to do for me in very general terms. Then I will get my conscious mind to step down and just enjoy the ride. For example, if I'm feeling bad about a situation that I can't practically change but want to feel differently about, I might ask my unconscious mind to generate some kind of metaphor or image that will help me start to move on from this concern. So, in this way my conscious mind has the task of merely setting the intention and leaving it up to the unconscious mind to produce the means of me feeling different. I might further suggest to myself that, whatever my unconscious mind does in the up coming self-hypnosis session, I want to re-awaken in about twenty minutes feeling refreshed but so much more positive and relaxed about the situation.

Dr Milton Erickson would often ask his patients to "trust your unconscious". By saying this he was encouraging them to let the part of them that was expert at many things be allowed to work for them without the conscious mind getting too much in the way.

Sometimes if I am working with someone who I feel is a little too consciously uptight, I might use an analogy. I might say:

"You know when you travel in a plane you need to leave the flying to the experts on the flight deck - you need to allow yourself to be flown. And likewise, there is a part of you that is more expert than your conscious self at overcoming this problem... and it's that part I'm going to be talking to today as your conscious self can just enjoy the relaxation."

Your unconscious mind appreciates metaphor and patterns and even just starting to talk in analogies gears communication more toward unconscious responses. I've only just touched the surface of how to use duality when hypnotizing yourself and others. I hope you will take in these ideas and use this kind of approach to help yourself and others effectively.

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